Failure

Sorry. Sorry to the people in my life that I have disappointed, the people I have failed, the standards that I did not meet. I’m sincerely sorry. It wasn’t because I wasn’t trying hard, however, but because failure is just a part of life and unfortunately we all fail. Have you ever tried so hard at something, tried to keep up with commitments and try to make sure that everyone in your life was happy, just to find out that it didn’t turn out the way you wanted it to? But I’m here to tell you, just as failure is a part of life so too must success be a part of life. I mean you have death and you have life, you have darkness but then there’s light, you have sorrow but there is also happiness.

At school we are always striving for this mystical thing called success. We want to dux the year, get first in the subjects we love and to get that award that said, yes, I did it. However, success isn’t always what we want it to be. We might miss out on a place at the athletics carnival, we might not come top ten in a subject, we might get the lowest mark that we have ever received from a test, even though that used to be our best subject. Then, what we do is we give up.

Giving up – the dictionary gives several definition: to yield control or possession of: surrender, to desist from: abandon: to declare incurable. If there is one thing that you learnt from English all these years at school, it should’ve have been this. Those words that I just read out had negative connotations and undertones of failure. Yes, giving up is failure.

Giving up is also easy. It’s incredibly easy. We all do it. Each time a test comes around or an assignment is handed out, even when there is homework due the next day, you know you shouldn’t but you do, you procrastinate and you give up.

But when you give up you aren’t a failure. There is a clear distinction between someone who has failed and someone who is a failure. The distinguishing factor is all about change.

If you are willing to change, if you are willing to try again – only then are you not a failure but someone who has just failed. In any sense, you have a better prospect of success, for to fail is to learn. You learn what you are not so good at, your strengths, your weaknesses but if you don’t change the way you act, the way you go about things, the way you pursue your dream, well then at that point, you become a failure.

To put it succinctly, the future is what you make of it. You can decide to ignore all that you have discovered, all the changes that you can make to be a better person, to reach your full potential, or you can decide to ignore it, to remain the way you are and not become the best of the best.

The first step to success is admittance. Admittance for shortfalls, admittance for your lack of strive but do not dwell in the past and in the present; look to the future. What do you want to be? What do you hope to achieve? Set that goal, make sure that what you failed last time is corrected this time and try again because practice truly does make perfect, effort really shows improvement, change stimulates growth and only then can you move away from being a failure to now being a success.

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